When you think about what you really desire, chances are that at least a small piece of you worries about what “everybody” will think? In Finding Your Own North Star, Martha Beck challenges you to carefully define your “everybody.” Are you really just talking about your mother, Aunt Josephine, and your boss? Is it your best friend, your son, and that guy you have a crush on? Chances are good that the “everybody” you worry about is only a handful of people, and when you really investigate how much their opinion matters, you may discover that you’re expending a lot of your worry energy on people you don’t even like that much, much less respect enough to trust their advice.
Think about it. People are dying to give you advice, but does it really guide you? How much of what “everybody” says to you is total hogwash?