Our entire culture suffers from what the shamans call “soul loss,” a loss of meaning, direction, vitality, mission, purpose, identity, and genuine connection; a deep unhappiness that most of us have come to consider as simply ordinary. The soul is our source of absolute uniqueness, a place within that connects you not only to your own value and essence, but to the value and essence of every other living being. What makes soul loss so subtle and dangerous is that very few people have realized that it has happened. Most of us do not know that we have disconnected from our soul and have come to accept as normal a numbness and lack of meaning in our lives.

Because we all belong to this culture, we all suffer from soul loss. Soul loss is epidemic and blinds us from seeing the potential for joy and wholeness in ordinary life. When you heal from soul loss, you see familiar things in new ways so you can increase your joy in what you already have.

Not sure if you’re suffering from soul loss?

Here are 20 diagnostic signs that signal soul loss:

  1. You feel like you’re not as good as other people.
  2. You yearn to be of service, but you have no idea what you have to contribute and why it matters.
  3. You find yourself striving in vain for an impossible-to-achieve standard of perfection.
  4. Your fears keep you from living large.
  5. You’re frequently worried that you’re not good enough, smart enough, thin enough, young enough, [fill in the blank] enough.
  6. You feel like a victim of circumstances that are beyond your control.
  7. You feel like your daily life is meaningless and task-driven.
  8. You often feel helpless, hopeless, or pessimistic.
  9. You protect your heart with steel walls.
  10. You often feel you don’t really matter and your love doesn’t make a difference.
  11. You’re always trying to fit in and belong, but you rarely feel like you do.
  12. You feel beaten down by the challenges you face in your life.
  13. You suffer from a variety of vague, hard to treat physical symptoms, such as fatigue, chronic pain, weight gain or loss, insomnia, skin disorders, or gastrointestinal symptoms.
  14. You struggle with being able to accept love and nurturing.
  15. You feel depressed, anxious, or chronically worried.
  16. You feel like you’re not appreciated enough.
  17. You find yourself often judging others.
  18. You frequently numb yourself with alcohol, drugs, sex, television, or excessive busyness.
  19. You feel disappointed with life.
  20. You’ve forgotten how to dream.

How Soul Loss Shows Up At The Doctor’s Office

As a physician, I’ve had years of experience diagnosing soul loss in my patients, but Western medicine has no framework for this kind of diagnosis, and as doctors, we’re not taught to treat this kind of suffering, so we wind up mistreating it. What people suffering from soul loss need is the deep medicine of reconnection with the soul, but in our culture, we tend to treat soul loss too superficially.

We treat the chronic pain with pain medication. We treat the insomnia with sleeping pills. We treat the weight issues with diet and exercise. And most damagingly, we may label soul loss as mental illness, such as depression, and cover up the symptoms with psychiatric medications that may make things worse by slapping a Band-aid on a wound that’s not healing underneath the bandage.

The Treatment You Really Need

Sometimes the soul needs space in order to heal, and this may require the courage to make some external changes in your life. Perhaps you need to switch careers in order to give the soul more room to breathe. Perhaps an unhealthy relationship is constricting the soul, and it’s time to get into therapy, set boundaries, or even end things. Perhaps you need to find more people to love or relocate to a place that helps your soul come alive.  Perhaps you need to give your soul permission to engage in more creative activities. Such eternal changes may be part of the prescription the inner doctor of your soul writes.

But very often, those kinds of major life overhauls are NOT NECESSARY!  Reconnecting to the soul allows you to find peace and happiness right where you are in ways that are much simpler and more profound than you might think. It can be astounding to discover that you’ve had what you needed all along and have been looking in all the wrong places. Perhaps all that is needed is to see the life you’re already living in a different way.

10 Ways Your Soul Guides You In Daily Life

If you’re suffering from soul loss, what can you do about it? The first step to healing from soul loss is learning to reconnect to the guidance of your soul. In order to help you, Kitchen Table Wisdom author Rachel Naomi Remen and I are offering a free teleclass 10 Ways Your Soul Guides You In Daily Life. We’ll be teaching you one surprising vehicle the soul uses to speak to you loud and clear, how to interpret not only the green lights that affirm your path, but the red lights that redirect you, a way to ensure that the people you surround yourself with reflect back to you the voice of your soul and not the voice of your fear, a tool for interpreting how your soul speaks to you via the body, the one feeling that is always your soul talking, and more…

We invite you to join us by registering here.

We hope you’ll join the live healing circle of those who are already registered for this free teleclass, but even if you don’t join us, remember- your soul is always with you. You are always being guided. You don’t need anything outside of you to heal from soul loss. You already have all that you need to heal yourself.

Trusting your journey,

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  1. CA Dinesh Kotecha

    at times am frustrated at the behavior of some of my relatives/friends/acquaintances towards me. feel neglected for no wrong act of mine. loneliness is killing to the mind. prayers do not heal. what to do


      Who are you praying to? All this talk and nobody has mentioned God or the son, Christ. Why? Something is missing here.

  2. Daniel

    I hope this “doctor” gets prosecuted for maltreatment and fraud, soul loss, what a bunch of crap. Way to take advantage of the weak in our world Lissa, you opportunistic lunatic.

  3. Keke Pile

    oh its not crap… ask HSP ..Highly sensitive people ..affected by Npd..Child hoods trauma… Please do your Research…

    • Ransom

      If you haven’t experienced “soul” loss then I’m sure it sounds crazy but I have gone through it recently and completely agree with this article. I have gone through a lot of mental illness and physical illness as a result of feeling I had lost my soul. At one point I felt I had no soul and it was horrible. Western medicine would’ve put me on a bunch of pills that would’ve made things worse. I was so bad the I was close to going to a mental institution. I’ve gotten better with the help of family, friends and changing my diet and taking natural supplements. I have a family friend who has been my spiritual leader through my spiritual journey to help me find my soul and be my true self. There is a lot more to healing than western medicine. It’s sickening the way western medicine pushes pills when a lot of what we need is right in front of us or inside of us. God bless. I want us all to be happier and healthier.

    • Ransom

      Sorry Keke. Didn’t mean to write this as a reply to you

  4. Ray

    Our westernised view is just as much rational, as irrational.

    Whatever we have named it in these days, the message is more important than supporting what definitively is showing a way of no return in a world who demonstrates crisis.

    skepticism is based on fear; just as much that the egotism supports all kinds of disorder.

    This is what the ancients of all times and all cultures have said; everytime, and again and again.

    a message, which is massively ignored.

    may peace be with you.

  5. James Harley

    Thanks you so much for this 🙂

  6. Annabel Veer

    I got 10 out of the 20 – self diagnosis. It’s a heavy feeling but I’m in the process of recovering. Thank you for sharing this article. I also suggest you guys to really join support groups. I also read blogs that could life loss souls like Losing Salvation. I always keep this in mind:

    “For God is not unjust to forget your work and labor of love which you have shown toward His name, in that you have ministered to the saints, and do minister.”

    Read this

  7. Michael

    I got 20 out of 20.

    • Toller Brown

      Micheal, I would have just 4months ago. Felt that way for a few years. Been to doctors and allsorts, everything before leaving my wife, sorting debt(not paid off but addressed) and also looking for a new career(selfemployed) I can say in this short time I am my old self and score 0 out of 20. I just didn’t take the decision lightly, we tell people the symptoms and they treat the symptoms and not the cause, or perhaps we have a setback we never bounced back from for more complex reasons than were aware of and its easier, less risk and worth a try but in that time we numb ourselves to the tells of our gut. So we take charge of our life, initially its sad but then both frightening, exhilarating and you get a new wind, now just know that feeling is what will inspire you to keep going. then we have to be conscious that we are going to have to adjust but as long as were conscious of this its not a problem. It’s about taking charge of your life. Anyway I came here looking for something else but saw your comment. I was inspired by the film the founder where the guy starts his life in his 50’s. Just know if you take these steps you will quickly end up functioning at 100% and be creative etc. And things will not seem impossible anymore and dreams will have room to flower. When you’re at rock bottom you get back more than you put in when you take control step by step. And you learn how to bounce back as insurance.

  8. Violet

    Why is the free teleclass now $200? :/

  9. Sarah

    20/20. How sad, I thought that it’d be like this.

  10. Angela M Whitaker

    I lost my 16 yr old daughter to an accident 5 years ago. My soul left w her. She was my only child. Yes I go to work, take care of business and get through these painful days he by hour, minute by minute. Sometimes even go out w my bff but even when im smiling on the outside , i feel absolutely nothing . I feel nothing. Sometimes I try but i just can’t. Nothing deep down. No real emotion. Just “here” by force for the rest of my fam. But definitely not by choice. I got all.

  11. Teena Anderson

    My son has had half his soul ripped from him when he was just a toddler. He saw the ghosts that i could only feel. He stated that the ghosts were pulling him to the apple tree. Somehow, he was always pulled back. Half of his soul has remained intact. He is a grown man now and just recently informed me of this problem. He has ghost, dead people and demons after him. He has a red faced demon after him. He has smugged his home but the demon has not total left. His young step daughter is able to know about the red face.

  12. ALEXANDRA Cole

    You are dead on. I am an empath currently suffering major soul sickness as a result of overexposure of NPD…EVERYONE in mu life has turned on me and it’s the worst thing a human being can go thru. You are left isolated, alone and helpless. There’s nowhere to turn due to the evil done by these monsters. I am heavy hearted and walk around with so much anxiety it’s indescribable. i do not sleep at all nor have I in years and i’m out of work with no clue what to do in the wrong area. My own family turned on my at my worst time. What I’ve seen is PURE EVIL and as an empath it’s extremely hard to fathom.


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