In part 1 of this 5 part blog series about a feminine way to manifest your dreams, I wrote about a more feminine, “eggy” way to operate when you’re trying to bring into form something you desire, such as a business, a book, an art project, or a vision. While the masculine “spermy” approach requires pushing and striving, usually to the point of exhaustion, the feminine “eggy” approach requires setting clear intentions, making your desires known, and then trusting that, when your desires are in alignment with the highest good, the Universe will rush to your aid and send an army of dutiful little sperm your way in order to help you bring your desires into being.

All Desires Aren’t Created Equal

Now mind you, this approach is not to be confused with popular “law of attraction” notions put forth in The Secret and such. I’m not suggesting that all you need to do in order to make a Ferrari appear before you like magic is to imagine the Ferrari and then wait for the Universe to plop one in front of you.

Sure, the masculine approach still works if what you desire is a Ferrari. You can work your ass off, earn hundreds of thousands of dollars (or however much you’ll need – I don’t keep tabs on how much your average Ferrari costs these days), and go buy yourself a well-earned Ferrari.  But the Universe is less likely to join in on the fun, unless you intend to use that Ferrari as part of a campaign to end world hunger or cure AIDS or convert neo-Nazis into open-hearted lovebugs, in which case, hell – you’ll probably get a dozen Ferrraris plopped in front of you.

As my friend and business partner in the Find Your Calling program Martha Beck teaches in her book Finding Your Way In A Wild New World, a more effective way to bring a dream into form is to feel for what wants to happen in the collective consciousness, in service to the highest good, then surrender any attachment to it while moving faithfully in the direction of your joy.

In other words, the feminine way of operating is unlikely to succeed if what you desire is purely materialistic, focused solely on your personal gain, or attached to desires like fame, power, or adulation. Not to say there’s anything wrong with desiring those things – there’s not. But when you move in the direction of the highest good for all, while following your joy and trusting completely in the Universe’s desire to help you achieve those desires, you’d be surprised how many material rewards and personal gains come flooding your way.

Aligning Your Desires With The Greater Good

So what does that mean?  Ask any visionary, like the ones enrolled in the Visionary Ignition Switch program I co-lead with Amy Ahlers.

Most people who self-identify with the term “visionary” (or as Martha Beck calls us – “wayfinders,” “menders,” or “The Team”) are already in service to the greater good. While it’s possible to work for the financial industry or be the CEO of a large corporation beholden to its shareholders and still be in service to the greater good, more often than not, these people are entrepreneurs, healers, nonprofit founders or employees, or involved in mission-based small businesses trying to leave the world a better place.

Why Visionaries Need To Be Eggy

If you’re in service to the greater good and you’re trying to achieve your vision solely in a masculine “spermy” way, you’re likely to feel exhausted, get sick, plow your way off course, or even wind up broke, depleted, and spinning your wheels. The collective consciousness may wish you were heading north, when you’re working your ass off to head south. And if only you knew how many goodies awaited you if only you’d surrender to heading north, you’d gladly quit swimming upstream and let the current float you north.

When you stop striving solely in the direction of your mighty will, and instead, make room for flowing in the direction of the highest good, you make it infinitely easier for the Universe to use you as a stealth agent for God. If you’re willing to be molded, to follow signs from the Universe guiding you north when you think you want to go south, the Universe will fall over itself helping you serve the greater good. You become a vessel for positive change, a willing puppet the Universe can guide in the direction of what wants to happen, rather than a laser-focused speed train pummeling in the direction of your individual will.

When Spermy Doesn’t Work

While being spermy may be an effective adaptation when you’re trying to make it through grad school or plow through the pile of papers on your desk at work, there are ways in which being spermy doesn’t work at all.

You can’t sperm your way to getting pregnant (no pun intended.)

You can’t sperm your child to grow up happy.

You can’t sperm your way out of getting sick.

You can’t sperm your quest for the love of your life.

Sure, you can take your temperature, use ovulation predictor kits, read all the books, even try in vitro fertilization, but if it’s not in the cards, no amount of striving will get you pregnant.

There are always active measures you can take to optimize the chances of your dreams coming true. You can read parenting books, eat vegan, study how the mind heals the body, and sign up for But when it comes right down to it, most of your life is essentially out of your control. And no amount of spermyness is going to change that uncomfortable fact. So you might as well make peace with it – and chill out, relax, surrender, go with the flow, trust the Universe – get eggy.

How Can You Become More Eggy?

Whether you’re male or female, if you’ve been operating more like a sperm than like an egg when it comes to manifesting your desires, and if you’re doubting whether being eggy can actually be effective when it comes to manifesting your desires, stay tuned for Part 3 of this 5 part blog series. (If you want to make sure not to miss it, make sure you’re on my newsletter list). I’ll be teaching you some of the tools I’ve been using to become more eggy in my life and my business.

Are Your Desires In Service To The Greater Good?

Yes, being honest about your desires – even the ones that might seem self-serving, is almost always in service to the greater good. The world wants you to be happy, and to experience pleasure, and to feel relaxed and healthy and fulfilled and balanced. But it’s worth examining what you desire.

So think about it. What do you desire? And how are you going about bringing those desires into form? Tell us your stories.

In service to your desires,

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  1. Gretchen Grove

    I’ve traveled to Kenya twice and each time come back with the dream of helping the women. I have a strong retail and business background, am highly creative and a good problem solver. I want to live my dream tomorrow but instead am doing research, talking to people, listening to my inner self and to the universe, waiting for it to unfold.

  2. Lori D.

    I left a high-stress corporate career to homeschool my two sons and pursue one of my passions — writing. I write a regular blog about education and mindful parenting, and would love to write a book. However, instead of charging right in and beginning, as I would have done in the past, I am sitting with the idea, collecting ideas, and asking the universe to send some other “team members” my way to join me on this path.

    • Brandi


      What kind of team are you looking for?


  3. Susan

    I love your idea of spermy and eggy. Having been the only girl in a family of boys, I was raised to be spermy. And it was an effective mode in achieving in school and career. When I changed work to be a SAHM, eggy was the only way to go but without a road map, it took me awhile to get there. So, I’m glad to see you talking about these two modes, hopefully it will help others get there faster than I did.

    Now that the birdies have flown the nest, I have a new line of work. I’ve been an artist for over a decade, but now my work is changing to be more clay, both functional and sculptural. But…although I love it and it gives me joy and peace in a totally new way, I don’t see it as having a larger social context. I always knew my work with my own children was of service to the world but I don’t know now.

    Am I missing something here? Is there a way making bowls, mugs, vases and sculptures can be of service to the greater good? What do you think?

    • Tiin\

      There isn’t anything that one creates that cannot serve the highest good ~ how about sculpting to communicate a justice issue? Gather a few talented people, study how some way of living is promoting one group of people at the cost of another group of people – examine your reaction to that reality and how you might wish to change it – then sculpt away and take what you make and present it to the world as your way to raise awareness which is always the highest good….happy journey!

    • Barbora Stránská

      Susan, I think art is an amazing way to serve the world. From spreading creativity and happiness (there´s always a piece, even in the “sad and frustrated” kind of art) to the fact it is making you happy and fulfilled. And that´s what the Universe wants, doesn´t it?

  4. Alyssa

    This week has been one of proclaiming this desire out loud, over and over. Here goes:

    I am a Breast Health Advocate and Educator as well as a bodyworker. I work predominantly with people who are living with cancer, specifically women living with breast cancer. I work with women at all stages of the process by helping them stay and/or become connected once again with their bodies thru bodywork and mindset.

    My big desire is to open a non-profit where holistic professionals (i.e. bodywork, energy work, exercise, herbs/diet/nutrition, counseling, meditation, etc. + classes + support groups) will have a round table approach and work together to bringing each individual woman the greatest outcome toward peace, healing, and moving on.

    WOW, each time I say it, I get goosebumps all over. Thank you.

  5. Jacquie

    Wow. Lissa thank-you. This piece is so beautiful and SO true. I felt like everything in my life started to align when i let go and allowed my highest, greater good to come through me and guide the way.

    Letting go is not easy, but like you said, we really don’t have control over a lot of things we think we do. Life is way less complicated & way more fun when we trust, relax and enjoy the process.

    So true – the Universe, God wants us to be happy and do well. I have to remind myself this every single day but boy does it help me have faith! Thank-you for your creative truth!

  6. Julia

    I believe I’m quite eggy…….was born quite eggy but my eggyness was seen as a threat to my family and therefore my existence. My intuition and reading of people has always found it’s way through the fear; mine and theirs. Fast forward a few decades and my eggyness feels like teaching, children, literacy, public education….. Right now these pieces move toward and away from each other seeming like they are reconfiguring themselves or maybe they are aligning as I remove blocks and purify. I’m learning patience….sort of. I’m staring down patience and judging it as too slow….that’s what I’m really doing. Ooommmmm…….

  7. Amanda

    I just found this series, after a day of sitting at my desk struggling with the notion that being ‘spermy’ (though of course I didn’t know these fitting terms at the time!) just isn’t how I operate. I was so frustrated and down on myself for not feeling that urge to go-go-go, do-do-do, because I want to find the right direction (or as you and Tosha Silver say, ‘inspired action’) before I exert that energy, if it’s needed and feels right.

    Patience has never been my strong suit. Then I worry that because I’m getting frustrated, I’m missing opportunities. Silly how our minds can keep us in circles like that! But, finding this series today is helping to shine some light on why I feel the way I feel, and I sense a shift beginning. Thank you!


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