Trauma: The Theory Of Everything?

by Lissa Rankin | Dec 21, 2021 | Healing, Mental Health, Relationships, Spiritual Bypassing, Spirituality, Trust

As we approach the Winter Solstice, the darkest day of the year, I find myself sitting with and welcoming the darkness, in myself and in the world. I just finished reading the galley of My Grandmother’s Hands author Resmaa Menakem’s new book The Quaking of America,...

People Who Provide The Spark Don’t Often Get To Sit By The Fire, But Let’s At Least Try To Make A Freakin’ Bonfire Together

by Lissa Rankin | Nov 17, 2021 | Healing, Mental Health, Relationships, Spiritual Bypassing, Spirituality, Trust

When we look back at history, we see that the greatest catalysts for change, especially in social justice realms, rarely get to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Usually, as with Martin Luther King, Jr and his “I have a dream” vision, it’s quite the...

10 Ways To Oppress People With Spirituality (& Get Away With It)

by Lissa Rankin | Nov 15, 2021 | Healing, Mental Health, Social Justice, Spiritual Bypassing, Spirituality, Trust

Just as a point of inquiry, let’s take a moment to explore the relationship between common religious and spiritual teachings and how they might be linked to oppression. I don’t believe there’s some Evil Cabal out to control the world, but let’s...

8 Things To Consider About “Bad Friends” (& Why We Must Hold Our Intimate Friends Close)

by Lissa Rankin | Nov 11, 2021 | Healing, Mental Health, Spiritual Bypassing, Spirituality, Trust

After making a very painful decision to let a long-term friendship expire after repetitive boundary violating and abusive behavior caused me to hit my limit, I just read an article about “bad friends” that I found very helpful. This friendship has been...

As Religion & New Age Spirituality Topple, What DO I Believe In?

by Lissa Rankin | Nov 8, 2021 | Healing, Mental Health, Social Justice, Spiritual Bypassing, Spirituality, Trust

Some of you have been asking me privately whether I’ve become an atheist, a skeptic, or some sort of non-believer, so I thought I’d take a minute to just share with you some of my personal beliefs, which are admittedly always fluid as I learn and grow. In...