by Nicolay Kreidler | Apr 18, 2025 | Creativity, IFS, Mental Health, Writing
When it comes to healing, justice is big. Many trauma survivors struggle because their childhoods were so unjust, and then because history repeats itself, this often sets them up for relationships and jobs where the injustices play out again. And then there are the...
by Nicolay Kreidler | Feb 21, 2025 | Mental Health, Physical Health, Relationships, Uncategorized
If you’re like most people I know, you either fantasize about being rescued- or you identify with being the rescuer. If you look at the history of movies, in traditional heteronormative gender dynamics, the rescuer is the heroic man, rescuing the damsel-in-distress....
by Nicolay Kreidler | Feb 19, 2025 | Healing, IFS, Mental Health, Physical Health, Uncategorized
I mostly steer clear of writing about my daughter or our relationship. Because…boundaries. Just because I’ve chosen to put a lot of my vulnerability out there publicly doesn’t mean she has to be part of that. I worry about an entire generation of Mommy bloggers whose...
by Nicolay Kreidler | Jan 2, 2025 | Healing, IFS, Relationships, Trust
My partner Jeffrey Rediger and I are almost done with the manuscript for our first book together about the health implications of unbalanced relationships, which is due February 1 and will come out Spring 2026. Through the process of trying to get the language right,...
by Nicolay Kreidler | Dec 31, 2024 | IFS, Mental Health, Relationships
In Part 1 of this series about how to navigate unbalanced relationships when one of you is autistic or has adult ADHD, I told Tara and Bryce’s story and published my letter to Tara. You can read their story and my response to Tara here. After reading my response to...
