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12 Tips For Riding Out The Omicron Wave Safely, Protecting Your Mental Health (& What To Do If You Get It)
*The photo is a very blessedly swollen river on Steep Ravine Trail in Stinson Beach. I'm so happy it's been raining nearly all month! First, a disclaimer. I am not a public health doctor, nor a front-line Covid worker. But my colleagues, friends, and clients are,...
Trauma: The Theory Of Everything?
As we approach the Winter Solstice, the darkest day of the year, I find myself sitting with and welcoming the darkness, in myself and in the world. I just finished reading the galley of My Grandmother’s Hands author Resmaa Menakem’s new book The Quaking of America,...
30 Insights From A Trauma Survivor In Recovery From Spiritual Bypassing
I have an awesome new housemate, Shannon Gilcrease. She is a powerful, brilliant, gifted, beautiful, insightful, intelligent, unbelievable healer. She's also a trauma survivor in recovery from spiritual bypassing tendencies (she calls it "rose-colored glasses") who...
People Who Provide The Spark Don’t Often Get To Sit By The Fire, But Let’s At Least Try To Make A Freakin’ Bonfire Together
When we look back at history, we see that the greatest catalysts for change, especially in social justice realms, rarely get to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Usually, as with Martin Luther King, Jr and his "I have a dream" vision, it's quite the opposite. Spark...
10 Ways To Oppress People With Spirituality (& Get Away With It)
Just as a point of inquiry, let's take a moment to explore the relationship between common religious and spiritual teachings and how they might be linked to oppression. I don't believe there's some Evil Cabal out to control the world, but let's consider the actual...
8 Things To Consider About “Bad Friends” (& Why We Must Hold Our Intimate Friends Close)
After making a very painful decision to let a long-term friendship expire after repetitive boundary violating and abusive behavior caused me to hit my limit, I just read an article about "bad friends" that I found very helpful. This friendship has been problematic...
As Religion & New Age Spirituality Topple, What DO I Believe In?
Some of you have been asking me privately whether I've become an atheist, a skeptic, or some sort of non-believer, so I thought I'd take a minute to just share with you some of my personal beliefs, which are admittedly always fluid as I learn and grow. In short,...
What Actually Heals Trauma: The Key Components Of Effective Treatment
“Sometimes I wake up & have to remind myself: ‘There is nothing wrong with me. I have patterns to unlearn, new behaviors to embody and wounds to heal. But there is nothing wrong with the core of me and who I am. I am unlearning generations of harm and...
Extend Compassion To Both Victims & Perpetrators; But Not At The Expense Of Reparations For Victims & Accountability For Perpetrators
A few days ago, I posted 23 Ways To Spot Cultic Leaders, and it’s obvious from the almost 400 comments that a lot of people have been hurt by people who abused their power in ways that cause irreparable kinds of harm. I want to start by saying to the victims of...
20 Ways To Spot A Cultic Leader
I was mid-research into Sacred Medicine and a doctor I know said, “Hey, come to this secret meeting with a shaman from a remote tribe who is in town only for this week to share his sacred wisdom. Oh, and wear white. And bring your checkbook.” When I got there, a...
Why Spiritual Bypassing Is Not Just A Benign Narcotic Helping You Avoid Your Trauma; It’s A Social Justice Nightmare
“Choose love instead of fear.” “Don’t polarize; unify- because we are all One.” “Don’t complain about your lot in life. Your soul chose this incarnation so you could grow.” “Don’t protest. Pray for world peace instead.” “Forgive and forget and move on.” “Turn the...
A Few Thoughts About The New Netflix John of God Documentary & How It Relates To Cultic Abuse, Power, Accountability, & Spiritual Bypassing
*Trigger alert: Sexual abuse and cultic narcissistic predation is mentioned. As someone who spent ten years researching my book Sacred Medicine, which comes out April 2022 with Sounds True, "John of God" (who clearly was not of God) was very much on my radar....
12 Commonalities A Harvard Doctor Found In “Health Outliers” Who Had Radical Remissions
The mysterious phenomena the medical community calls “spontaneous remission” has long puzzled scientists and doctors because of the very inexplicable nature of how patients with “incurable” diseases wind up cured.
What Makes Someone A “Health Outlier” Ripe for Radical Remission?
The mysterious phenomena the medical community calls “spontaneous remission” has long puzzled scientists and doctors because of the very inexplicable nature of how patients with “incurable” diseases wind up cured.
What The Vaccinated Can Do To Protect Against Breakthrough Delta Covid Infection
What You Can Do To Protect Yourself and Others Against the Breakthrough Delta Covid Infection
Natural Health AND Public Health. Vaccination AND Immune Boosting:
Why Public Health Guidelines & Other Attempts To Set Limits Are Not Fascism Or Authoritarianism