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The One Thing We Need (Which Most Of Us Are Missing) To Truly Let Love In
We humans are adorable. We crave love, jonesing for it desperately like a junkie seeking out the next fix, yet most of us have no idea how to love and be loved. Why? Because our original teachers, our parents, usually didn’t know how to really love us either....
Why It Doesn’t Help To Demonize Your Ego, Your Mind, Or Your Protector Parts
As I prepare for the February 12 due date of my new book baby The Daily Flame: 365 Love Letters From Your Inner Pilot Light, I’m releasing a series of blogs intended to help you connect to this source of divinity within each of us. In “What Is Your Inner Pilot...
The Crucial First Step To Letting Your Inner Pilot Light Make Your Decisions
In the acknowledgments of my new book The Daily Flame: 365 Love Letters From Your Inner Pilot Light, I wrote this. “I might never have come into close contact with my Inner Pilot Light were it not for the guidance, illumination, and love of my mentor Rachel Naomi...
The Most Common Reason You Can’t Sense Your Inner Pilot Light’s Guidance
As we get closer to the publication date of my new book The Daily Flame: 365 Love Letters From Your Inner Pilot Light, I’ll be releasing a series of blogs intended to help you connect to this source of divinity within each of us. In "What Is Your Inner Pilot...
How I’m Using AIT (Advanced Integrative Therapy) To End The Suffering Unhealed Trauma Creates
In this blog, I wrote about The Paradox: We can Heal Ourselves, But We Can’t Do It Alone. In the wake of losing my mother last year, I am in the midst of doing the most intensive trauma healing work I’ve ever done in my life. If you’ve lost a parent, you know how...
THE PARADOX: You Can Heal Yourself, But You Can’t Heal Yourself Alone
Yesterday, my publisher Tami Simon, founder of Sounds True, was interviewing me for her podcast Insights At The Edge as a way to broadcast to the world that my new book The Daily Flame: 365 Love Letters From Your Inner Pilot Light is now available (learn more...
What Is Your Inner Pilot Light?
Since I started writing The Daily Flame emails ten years ago, people often ask me to define “Your Inner Pilot Light.” What is it? What is it not? How can you tell if you’re dialed into it? Can other scared, protective, or agenda-driven parts of your psyche trick...
A Christmas Miracle: When Love Wins, Against All Odds
On Christmas Eve, I was listening to my teacher and mentor Rachel Naomi Remen reading her book Kitchen Table Wisdom with my husband Olivier and daughter Siena. The whole rest of the day, I found myself reflecting on miracles—not the shock and awe Jesus kind of...
A Winter Solstice/Full Moon Ritual of White Magic
Today is the Winter Solstice and tomorrow is both the full Cold Moon and a meteor shower, so this is an exciting time in the cosmos as the sun begins its return closer to earth and the sky showers us with light on this darkest night of the year. I like to perform...
John of God In Custody After 300+ Accusations Of #MeToo—& Why Not To Give Your Power Away
For seven years, I’ve been researching what I hope will be a future book—Sacred Medicine. This journey of discovery has landed me with shamans in Peru, Qigong masters from China, kahunas from Hawaii, energy healers in the U.S., and faith healers in Bali. I set off...
Sacred Reciprocity: How To Give Thanks To Mother Earth This Thanksgiving
We just survived the worst season of California wildfires I can remember after living here over half of my life. While our lives and homes were not in immediate danger as so many others were, we did have to flee the San Francisco Bay Area as smoke evacuees because...
What Is Intimacy?
When I was teaching a workshop a couple of weeks ago, I made a flippant comment to a client. “Intimacy is not the same as unconditional love, nor is it the same as sex or compatibility.” My client wrinkled her forehead and took me aside later to ask me to expand on...
LOVE LOUDER: Anger Is The First Step Towards Healing
I was raised as a young girl to be a good Methodist. Anger was not an acceptable emotion in my religion or in my family. Neither my father nor my mother expressed healthy anger. Instead, my mother grew resentful from over-giving and her resentment turned sour as...
I Stand For Zero Tolerance Of Any Democrat Or Republican Assaulting Women
Dear Ones, what’s happening with Judge Kavanaugh and Dr. Ford has taken a regrettable turn that makes me feel embarrassed to be an American. Let me make one thing clear. I do not consider this a political issue. I consider this a stand against our tolerance of...
Misogyny: As American As Apple Pie, But Now…
Last week, I wrote a blog about the Kavanaugh/Ford hearing, and I sent what I wrote to a man whose work on shadow and masculinity I deeply respect, psychologist and spiritual teacher Robert Augustus Masters, PhD. Robert's latest book, for which I wrote the...
Do Men Need An #IRapedToo Movement?
I was with female clients all day yesterday and many of them were very triggered because of the Kavanaugh/Ford testimonies. The Senate hearing was activating PTSD flashbacks of their own sexual assaults. I was facilitating them through their traumas and referring...