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What Is And Is Not Love? A Valentine’s Day Wish For All The Lovers, With Or Without Someone To Love
What if love, or at least the “love” depicted in love songs and romantic comedies, is not actually love? What if what we typically refer to as love is an intoxicatingly intense boundary-less merging, a blissful brew of emotions concocted from a mysterious and often...
Why You’d Be Wise Not To Trust Every Healer (Or Doctor or Therapist) Who Promises To Cure You (& 11 Tips From My Sacred Medicine Book To Keep You Safe From Harm)
*Trigger alert: Emotional, physical, sexual, and financial abuse at the hands of those we entrust to help us heal when we are at our most vulnerable. I used to believe that doctors were heroes, if not gods. My father was one of those doctors I idolized, and at seven...
2 Playlists To Support Our Burned Out Healers, Our Long Covid & Trauma Survivors, & Anyone Else In Need of Healing
Rise Up, by Lissa Rankin & her daughter Mira Klein, encaustic on wood panel 18 x 18 To say that this has been a hard two years is literally the understatement of the century. Unless you were alive during the Spanish flu of 1918 or one of the World Wars or the...
Healer, Heal Thyself: Why We Need Trauma Recovery For Doctors, Nurses & Mental Health Workers- STAT!
Because I used to be a doctor and because many of my friends, colleagues, and clients are doctors and therapists, I have my finger on the pulse of what it's been like to be a front-line Covid doctor or front-line mental health worker during a global pandemic. Those...
12 Tips For Riding Out The Omicron Wave Safely, Protecting Your Mental Health (& What To Do If You Get It)
*The photo is a very blessedly swollen river on Steep Ravine Trail in Stinson Beach. I'm so happy it's been raining nearly all month! First, a disclaimer. I am not a public health doctor, nor a front-line Covid worker. But my colleagues, friends, and clients are, and...
Trauma: The Theory Of Everything?
As we approach the Winter Solstice, the darkest day of the year, I find myself sitting with and welcoming the darkness, in myself and in the world. I just finished reading the galley of My Grandmother’s Hands author Resmaa Menakem’s new book The Quaking of America,...
30 Insights From A Trauma Survivor In Recovery From Spiritual Bypassing
I have an awesome new housemate, Shannon Gilcrease. She is a powerful, brilliant, gifted, beautiful, insightful, intelligent, unbelievable healer. She's also a trauma survivor in recovery from spiritual bypassing tendencies (she calls it "rose-colored glasses") who is...
People Who Provide The Spark Don’t Often Get To Sit By The Fire, But Let’s At Least Try To Make A Freakin’ Bonfire Together
When we look back at history, we see that the greatest catalysts for change, especially in social justice realms, rarely get to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Usually, as with Martin Luther King, Jr and his "I have a dream" vision, it's quite the opposite. Spark...
10 Ways To Oppress People With Spirituality (& Get Away With It)
Just as a point of inquiry, let's take a moment to explore the relationship between common religious and spiritual teachings and how they might be linked to oppression. I don't believe there's some Evil Cabal out to control the world, but let's consider the actual...