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The Boundaries That Protect Healthy Intimacy

The Boundaries That Protect Healthy Intimacy

I’m reading a great book about boundaries, Anne Katherine’s Where To Draw The Line, with my partner Jeff. The whole book is great, but I just wanted to share with you all some of the Cliff Notes of what I really appreciated, which is a check list of helpful “Do’s” and...

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12 Differences Between Real Love & “Love Bombing”

12 Differences Between Real Love & “Love Bombing”

In a recent post, I told a very personal story about my one painful experience with polyamory and how I mistook “love bombing” for actual love in a narcissistic abuse situation. After writing it over the holiday weekend and reading it to my co-teacher in our Memoir As...

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17 Tips for Getting Your Memoir Started

17 Tips for Getting Your Memoir Started

Since 2016, I’ve been teaching memoir writing as a therapeutic process for healing trauma and improving disease outcomes- “Memoir As Medicine,” as my first writing teacher Nancy Aronie calls it. Morning pages or extemporaneous journal writing can be therapeutic enough...

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Healing From Narcissistic Abuse (Ruthless Lessons, Part 3)

Healing From Narcissistic Abuse (Ruthless Lessons, Part 3)

In Part 1 and Part 2 of this series of “ruthless lessons” in understanding the playbook of how perpetrators of narcissistic abuse operate and how survivors can heal, I shared notes I’ve been taking from the podcast Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramini. I’ve been...

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Taking Off The Rose Colored Glasses: Ruthless Lessons Part 2

Taking Off The Rose Colored Glasses: Ruthless Lessons Part 2

My therapist gave me “ruthless lessons” as part of my treatment, because I was so naïve, lacked street smarts, and couldn’t spot a cunning, manipulative, exploitative individual because my rose colored glasses and trauma-informed compassion gave everyone the benefit...

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Taking Off The Rose Colored Glasses

Taking Off The Rose Colored Glasses

Ruthless Lessons Part 1 Some of us relate to others through the eyes of young, innocent parts with a naïve, idealized, optimistic tendency to see the best in others, give them the benefit of the doubt, assume good intentions of others, and extend a great deal of...

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The Anatomy of Trust

The Anatomy of Trust

We Can’t Protect Ourselves Without Understanding Trust Since I’m preparing curriculum for my upcoming class Becoming Unf*ckwithable, I was noodling what it actually takes to be both vulnerable and protected from those who might wish to mess with us- and any time I...

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