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8 Things To Consider About “Bad Friends” (& Why We Must Hold Our Intimate Friends Close)
After making a very painful decision to let a long-term friendship expire after repetitive boundary violating and abusive behavior caused me to hit my limit, I just read an article about "bad friends" that I found very helpful. This friendship has been problematic for...
As Religion & New Age Spirituality Topple, What DO I Believe In?
Some of you have been asking me privately whether I've become an atheist, a skeptic, or some sort of non-believer, so I thought I'd take a minute to just share with you some of my personal beliefs, which are admittedly always fluid as I learn and grow. In short, no. I...
What Actually Heals Trauma: The Key Components Of Effective Treatment
“Sometimes I wake up & have to remind myself: ‘There is nothing wrong with me. I have patterns to unlearn, new behaviors to embody and wounds to heal. But there is nothing wrong with the core of me and who I am. I am unlearning generations of harm and remembering...
Extend Compassion To Both Victims & Perpetrators; But Not At The Expense Of Reparations For Victims & Accountability For Perpetrators
A few days ago, I posted 23 Ways To Spot Cultic Leaders, and it’s obvious from the almost 400 comments that a lot of people have been hurt by people who abused their power in ways that cause irreparable kinds of harm. I want to start by saying to the victims of cultic...
20 Ways To Spot A Cultic Leader
I was mid-research into Sacred Medicine and a doctor I know said, “Hey, come to this secret meeting with a shaman from a remote tribe who is in town only for this week to share his sacred wisdom. Oh, and wear white. And bring your checkbook.” When I got there, a lot...
Why Spiritual Bypassing Is Not Just A Benign Narcotic Helping You Avoid Your Trauma; It’s A Social Justice Nightmare
“Choose love instead of fear.” “Don’t polarize; unify- because we are all One.” “Don’t complain about your lot in life. Your soul chose this incarnation so you could grow.” “Don’t protest. Pray for world peace instead.” “Forgive and forget and move on.” “Turn the...
A Few Thoughts About The New Netflix John of God Documentary & How It Relates To Cultic Abuse, Power, Accountability, & Spiritual Bypassing
*Trigger alert: Sexual abuse and cultic narcissistic predation is mentioned. As someone who spent ten years researching my book Sacred Medicine, which comes out April 2022 with Sounds True, "John of God" (who clearly was not of God) was very much on my radar....
12 Commonalities A Harvard Doctor Found In “Health Outliers” Who Had Radical Remissions
The mysterious phenomena the medical community calls “spontaneous remission” has long puzzled scientists and doctors because of the very inexplicable nature of how patients with “incurable” diseases wind up cured.
What Makes Someone A “Health Outlier” Ripe for Radical Remission?
The mysterious phenomena the medical community calls “spontaneous remission” has long puzzled scientists and doctors because of the very inexplicable nature of how patients with “incurable” diseases wind up cured.