In Part 1 of this 5 part blog series about manifesting your dreams in a more feminine way, I discussed how pushing/ striving/ working your ass off – being “spermy” – isn’t always the most joyful or most effective way to operate when you’re trying to bring a desire into being. Instead, I examine how being “eggy” by letting what you desire come to you might be an alternate strategy. In Part 2 of the series, I examined popular “law of attraction” notions in relation to such an idea and concluded that your intentions – and whether your desires are in service to the greater good – make all the difference.

In Part 3 here, I’m writing to all you skeptics out there, who think being eggy is for sissies, that striving less, playing more, taking time off, setting goals but surrendering attachment to outcomes, and trusting that the Universe will do most of the heavy lifting for you if only you align your desires with what is in the highest good for all beings is a recipe for failure.

In this post, I’m going to tell you a story about my own eggy adventure. 

A Vision To Heal Health Care

For several years now, I’ve been gestating the seed of an idea that I might be a force for healing in our broken health care system, and that somehow, this might involve working with doctors. (I wrote about the details of my vision to heal health care here.) It seems an improbable vision. Our health care system is so broken it feels hopeless sometimes. What can one person do to help heal a system as sick as the U.S. health care system? How would such a healing happen? Was there anything I was supposed to do to help heal health care?

I had no clue.

But I can see the healing of our health care system in my mind’s eye. I can feel it wanting to come into being, not just in my own imagination, but in the imagination of patients and doctors alike.  In some cosmic way, it’s so real it almost feels like it’s already happened and the pieces of the puzzle that will solve this health care problem are just waiting to fall into place.

But where does that leave me? What am I supposed to do about it?

Do Nothing

For years, when I prayed about this question, the answer I got was “Do nothing,” which resulted in a lot of eye-rolling on my part. What’s a spermy visionary on a mission supposed to do with those kinds of instructions?

A team of people who share my vision even found their way to me, armed with ideas of what I might do to help bring this vision to life. One thought I should start a pilot medical practice that would serve as a model for other medical practices, one that could be studied and written up in medical journals and replicated across the globe. But when I asked my Guidance, the answer was “Do nothing.”

Another thought I should start an online forum and invite the tribe of patients, doctors, nurses, alternative health care providers, and wellness coaches to pledge their allegiance to this mission and gather together to try to solve the puzzle. But once again, my Guidance said, “Do nothing. Await further instructions from me. Let the solutions come to you.”

Someone else wanted me to host a series of teleconferences with MD leaders like my colleagues and friends Larry Dossey, Bernie Siegel, Christiane Northrup, Rachel Naomi Remen, Mark Hyman, Frank Lipman, and Deepak Chopra. Someone else wanted me to host a big conference, gathering together all the forces for change in health care and inviting as conference attendees those who long to help heal health care. But that felt so spermy – details to coordinate, requests to make, attendants to sign up. It felt like grasping and striving and too much damn work to add to my already full schedule.

Once again, the Guidance said, “Do nothing. Yet. But soon, it will be time to do something. I’ll let you know when it’s time.”

It’s Uncomfortable For Spermy People To Get Eggy 

By this point, I was fully committed to being a force for change in health care, but only if I could do it in an eggy way. It became crystal clear to me that the masculine paradigm in health care had been effective, up to a point. And now it was time to embrace a more feminine, eggy way of being in health care. I couldn’t be part of reclaiming the feminine in health care by operating in a spermy way. As uncomfortable as it is, I would have to trust that, if my vision of healing health care is in alignment with the greater good, the Universe will fall over Itself bringing solutions to me, the initially reluctant but now willing servant of such a mission.

To say that this has not been easy for me is the understatement of the century.

I am freakin’ awesome at being spermy. I know it well. It’s my comfort zone.  To try to be eggy in the face of something that matters this much to me has been practically impossible. I’ve had to sit on my hands, resist picking up the phone, spend hours in meditation, and make frantic calls to my spiritual counselor to keep from falling into old spermy patterns when my faith starts to lag.

This has been going on for years – 7 ½ years, to be exact, since the idea that I might help heal health care, rather than being a part of how sick it is, first occurred to me. That’s longer than my daughter has been alive and twice as long as I’ve been blogging! It’s been an exercise in Divine timing, but even more so, an exercise in trust.

A Lesson In Trust

After years of Guidance telling me to do nothing, all the sudden, in October 2012, my Guidance started throwing stuff at me right and left. It was coming in so fast and furious I couldn’t interpret the Signs from the Universe. I had to step out of my daily life, go on retreat to Esalen in Big Sur, and create enough space for the message to come through.

I wrote about the whole mystical experience here, but in essence, my Guidance (who I call Sebastian) was lovingly telling me to sit down, shut up, and take dictation for one email entitled “Calling All Conscious Physicians.”

So I sat on a wooden chair on a cliff overlooking the Pacific, got super quiet, and heard, clear as a voice sitting next to me, a voice telling me what to write. Fortunately, I’m a super duper fast typist, and I was able to just barely keep up with what Sebastian told me to write.

Relieved that there was finally action to be taken, I then asked Sebastian what I was supposed to do with this email. The maddening answer I received was, “Do nothing. Await further instructions,” to which I promptly – and respectfully, of course, – screamed, “F*CK YOU!” (Fortunately, Sebastian and I swear at each other all the time and nobody takes it personally.) Sebastian was patient with me and assured me, in the most loving, calming voice ever, that everything was handled, that I have nothing to worry about, that it’s all happening in perfect timing, that my vision was already on its way to coming to fruition, and that the process need not be stressful or exhausting or scary, that in fact, it would be joyful and fulfilling and lucrative and filled with unimaginable blessings.

I breathed. And decided to, yet again, do nothing and trust.

Fast Forward One Week

That all happened on a Monday, and exactly one week later, I was chatting on the phone with my new friend and Find Your Calling business partner Martha Beck, and I was telling her about what had happened at Esalen and how my Guidance had told me to write an email to doctors, inviting them to be part of the healing of health care. She then asked me to tell her more about the email I had written.

I gave her the details about how I was seeking 15 physicians who would become leaders in this movement to heal health care – not that I knew what I’d do with them should they raise their hands and claim their place as health care revolutionaries!  Then Martha suddenly sprang to action. With a voice more animated than I had ever heard her speak, Martha said, “You’ll bring them to my ranch and we’ll teach them together how to be forces for change in healing health care!” (She just bought a big ranch in Central California with the intention of transforming it into a retreat center and healing the healers, though she too had been awaiting further instructions on her eggy adventure of being a force for change in the world.)

Suddenly, very eggy Martha was pure sperm, spouting off details about dates and curriculum and where these doctors would sleep and how much we’d charge and how she’d bring in her horse-whisperer friend Koelle and how all these doctors would go out and amplify our collective visions, like threads of a web covering the earth.

While Martha planned, I sobbed. I had just been given further instructions – and it had only taken 7 days.

(If you’re a physician raising your hand and saying “Me! Me! Me!” or if you know a physician who would like to be a force for change in healing health care, please email and I’ll make sure you get more details when Martha and I finalize our plans.)

Can You Still Succeed If You’re Being Eggy?

Martha’s book Finding Your Way In A Wild New World is full of case studies that demonstrate that not only can you succeed, you can succeed wildly when you’re in service to healing the world in your own unique way. Even though I have read her book twice now, I needed to begin to experience it myself in order to trust that, not only is being eggy more fun and more restful than being spermy, it’s actually proving to be way more effective in my own mission, business and life.

Don’t believe me? Start trying yourself. In Part 4 of this blog series, I’ll be discussing the techniques Martha uses to help people be more eggy when they’re manifesting their dreams, so make sure you’re on my newsletter list so you don’t miss out.

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  1. Allison Crow

    I am so being told to just wait, and to listen, and just be. Easy on the sperm for now – and I’m itching like crazy in the waiting. I’m trusting this shift in my life though… breathing in and allowing. Thanks for being a blessing and a role model in balancing both the sperm and the egg.

    I keep hearing my Inner Whisper say, with a chuckle, “Oh, girlie….you have no idea. Just keep on the path and just wait till you see the ride I have in store for you.”

    Looking forward to the rest of the series.

    • Jean Kowalski

      I’m hearing ya Allison!!!
      THere’s big stuff for you on your path and I can hardly wait to see it!!!

      Buckle up and hang on!!!


  2. CaroG87

    I’ll admit, I am NOT the most patient person in the world, and being told to wait on something bigger…. ugh, drives me nuts. I’ve been there and it didn’t work out …. partly because I didn’t pay attention all along and did little things to speed up what I (thought I) wanted. And flopped.

    And then there have been the times when I have waited and it worked SO well, I couldn’t believe it.

    I’m learning to be more eggy, and trying to be still and listen for that guidance.

  3. Harish

    Thank you for your post Lissa!

    I can really relate to your story since I have had similar experiences in my life. When I pushed harder, worked more, slept less, got stressed, it was always counter productive.

    When I let go, relaxed, got more sleep, slowed down, meditated, allowed, the path opened up in front of me. It was up to me to decide if I was willing to allow or to resist and struggle.

    There is a common misconception in the world that being always stressed out and always being on the move is the way to success. I found out that nothing was further from the truth. As always, ancient wisdom comes to mind- take action but let go of the outcome and allow. But this is so difficult for us sometimes!

    Thank you again!

  4. Jane Lee Logan

    Fantastic! It can seem counterintuitive to believe that waiting, listening and doing nothing can actually be more “productive.” For me, all I have to do is look at what all my “doings” have resulted in to reasonably convince me that perhaps stepping back and allowing myself to be carried, or to allow myself to receive as an egg would do might be a wiser approach. It’s as though we THINK we are being spermy and accomplishing so much, but we are actually just scrambled eggs!

    It does involve a great amount of trust and there are definitely ‘oh shit what am doing’ moments. And like you, I can get into all out arguments with my inner guide (of course these fighting matches are me shadow boxing; they are one sided and it just waits for me to pipe down). Nevertheless, when I do this, I find an overall sense of rightness and calm even when there might not be any evidence yet to support these feelings. I liken it to growing a deep root system beneath the surface before the sprout is even visible. Possibly one vast enough to support a magnificent structure that is yet to come into view. This is yet to be determined in my case.

    Thank you for sharing your experience! I’ll take three sunny side up!

  5. Jennifer

    Hi Lissa,

    I just started receiving your emails, interestingly enough it was just as you started this whole eggy movement. I am a hardcore doer. I thrive on high achievement ( the same goes for the women I work with). I just started my practice full-time in April and have had the predictable starts, stops and moments of pure crazy.

    At any rate, there has been a block to my progress and last night it dawned on me that it is my lack of vulnerability. In order for me to follow my passion and do my work, I have to trust in God, the universe or as you say, Sebastian. Vulnerability, trust, faith – for now that is my true work. It is important for the women with whom I work as well as.

    Then I read your post today. Oh to be eggy…

    I read Martha’s book this summer, so I think I will pick it up again and read it in this new context. I will try to patiently wait for the rest of my instructions to come.

    Thank you.

  6. Jean Kowalski

    YAY!!! OMG….I was reading part 3 and came to the paragraph of you and Martha talking. I broke out in total “angel bumps” from head to toe!!!! YES, YES, YES!!!! I see/feel that you both are totally on track!!! I am so excited to see and hopefully be part (somehow) of this much-needed healthcare change.

    And YES, I too am in this “do nothing” stage and to be honest…..driving me crazy!!! HA

    So thank you…..I will patiently wait for the guidance and the perfect divine time!

    so excited for you.
    Lots of love & JOY,


  7. Sunny

    How I wish I were a physician right now so I can be a part of the movement! Love love love. I am learning how to be more eggy and this series came at exactly the right time for me. Of course. Thank you and keep going Lissa! I am a big fan and appreciate your inspiration and feminine power.

  8. Marygreta

    This set of articles/thoughts/teachings is so timely for me. I left a job in October. I’m grieving and also very uncomfortable not having a paycheck at this time. Also learning uncomfortable things about myself. I, too, was in a sprermy place. I wasn’t getting any direction from the Lord and I forgot to just sit and wait. Got too impatient…ended up making a few wrong decisions.
    At this time, I’m squirming through the process of finding balance, starting over and wondering how to start dreaming again for what the future could hold for me.

    It’s amazing the providence that comes at us when we get quiet. Your blog is very important for me to read at this time. I’m eggy by nature, however, I forget to listen. I’m looking forward very much to next week’s installment!

    Thanks for all you share.


  9. Susana

    I just love what you write and how you write! WOW! And we just seem so similar! My friend forwarded your blog to me because she felt there was something between us. Maybe we are egged to be? 😉

    I have had similar experiences – to be, not do. “They” also said: “build and they will come”. And now they are kicking my ass to get out in the world and connect with people.

    I also wish I was a physician, but I am not. I do believe we can collaborate in other ways and connect likeminded people who wants to make a difference in the world.

    Wish you all best with your ranch retreat!! great idea and it will be amazing!!!

    Thank you for being you!

    Love and light,

  10. Julia

    I was told to do nothing as I’m looking for an early childhood teaching job. I felt that I turned a corner when I was told to focus on other areas of my life…….to stop staring down the work area of my life.
    At this point, I’ve taken my focus off the work area of my life. It’s know in the periphery as I create cute beachy xmas decorations and get to the know the people on the island I moved to in July.
    It feels good-like a gentle exfoliant.

    My guess is the universe would prefer to do it’s job without me staring it down while it’s putting together the recipe that will be cooked into my next step. I also sense that the ocean environment and it’s island inhabitants have something to present to me. Obviously, I need to be open and available for the presentation……

  11. Eileen

    love reading this and other people’s experiences in trust and guidance. I’ve gotten guidance recently that i need to quit my job and go back to school @ CIIS in San Fran. I feel that if i am fortunate enough to get specific guidance then what better opty will i ever get to test it?? I don’t know how I will support myself or pay my mortgage or cover my mother’s costs, should it come to that. But I trust that I will be provided for when I need it. The behavior I find toughest to stop is the habit of using my head to ‘do the math’ — trying to calculate how much I’ll earn after going back to school, how i need to change my spending habits now. Just because ‘doing the math’ starts the process of shrinking myself prematurely, and I don’t know that that’s necessary.

  12. Tracy

    I love the Universe. I’ve been working on less masculine drive, more feminine for over two decades…and as such, it has been a ride. I am commenting, because of what has been happening in the last three weeks–being the facilitator for something ‘way’ bigger than me and that is on par with the type of change you’re talking about–except a different industry. And today I asked for a damn message, because I frankly do not have that same drive, but can be found striving (I used to be a type AAA…and now am an A! LOL)….and lo and behold I found the spermy/eggy thing intriguing as I search for feminine ways of operating…and this post here #3 it answered exactly what I am doing. You just gave me my message (although I know you wrote this over 2 years ago)…the email. The email….and placing the message (that I’ve received) to fill its space. Thank you!


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