First and foremost, you are loved and you are valuable. You are never broken or worthless, even when you make the inevitable blunders children are supposed to make while they're learning to be human. Your feelings are valid and you deserve to feel all of them—the...
We get so encrusted with our mental concepts of what’s possible and what’s not that when the “impossible” happens, we can have all kinds of emotions that range from fear to awe to confusion to bewilderment to gratitude to anger. Most of us don’t like having our...
We live in a culture that glorifies bullies, and we seem to think bullying will make us better people. But we are deluded. Bullying never works to make anyone a better person. Let’s look at the reality of this distorted obsession with bullying in the name of making...
Yesterday, I was talking to a mentoring client on the telephone from my bedroom when I heard a blood-curdling scream out my window. Before I even knew what was happening, I told my client there was an emergency and I needed to hang up the phone and call 911....
Imagine if you had a reliable way to diagnose any statement as “true” or “false?” What if you could accurately test “It’s aligned for me to quit my job.” versus “It’s not aligned for me to quit my job?” and get the answer direct from God, your Inner Pilot Light,...
We humans are adorable. We crave love, jonesing for it desperately like a junkie seeking out the next fix, yet most of us have no idea how to love and be loved. Why? Because our original teachers, our parents, usually didn’t know how to really love us either....
In the acknowledgments of my new book The Daily Flame: 365 Love Letters From Your Inner Pilot Light, I wrote this. “I might never have come into close contact with my Inner Pilot Light were it not for the guidance, illumination, and love of my mentor Rachel Naomi...
As we get closer to the publication date of my new book The Daily Flame: 365 Love Letters From Your Inner Pilot Light, I’ll be releasing a series of blogs intended to help you connect to this source of divinity within each of us. In "What Is Your Inner Pilot...
In this blog, I wrote about The Paradox: We can Heal Ourselves, But We Can’t Do It Alone. In the wake of losing my mother last year, I am in the midst of doing the most intensive trauma healing work I’ve ever done in my life. If you’ve lost a parent, you know how...
Since I started writing The Daily Flame emails ten years ago, people often ask me to define “Your Inner Pilot Light.” What is it? What is it not? How can you tell if you’re dialed into it? Can other scared, protective, or agenda-driven parts of your psyche trick...
On Christmas Eve, I was listening to my teacher and mentor Rachel Naomi Remen reading her book Kitchen Table Wisdom with my husband Olivier and daughter Siena. The whole rest of the day, I found myself reflecting on miracles—not the shock and awe Jesus kind of...
I was raised as a young girl to be a good Methodist. Anger was not an acceptable emotion in my religion or in my family. Neither my father nor my mother expressed healthy anger. Instead, my mother grew resentful from over-giving and her resentment turned sour as...
Dear gorgeous, holy, radiant YOU, Let me just start with the obvious. Darling…I adore you. You are the light of my life. Well…let me reframe that. As your Inner Pilot Light, I suppose I am the light of YOURS. But this is no burden for me! It is my raison d'être, my...
The way I hurdled headlong into what I thought was love three years ago is so clichéd that I won’t even bother describing the intoxicating fireworks. It was a star-crossed, impossible relationship from the get-go, a doomed love affair heading for a crash and burn...
Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays because the whole point of this holiday is invoking a tender emotion—gratitude—that has been known in both spiritual traditions and science to open the heart, relax the nervous system, improve health, and deepen intimacy...
Intentionally invoking magic and playing with consciousness in all Her forms on “Goddess Quests” has been one of the practices that my daughter Siena and I activate to help us feel closer to the Divine. Some of you may have followed us on the Goddess Quest we...