Melody and I used to make plans the way people do when they care about each other. We’d talk them through, check calendars, and imagine the future together, even if it was just a Tuesday night dinner or a weekend hike. When we’d land on a plan, I’d feel my body...
Let me start with wishing you holiday blessings from the 1870s renovated barn that is Jeff, Mira and my new home near Bodega Bay, CA. Because we’ve been in the midst of a big move, we only just got around to decorating for the holidays. So let me show you where we...
Happy Winter Solstice to you all! I want to thank you for another year of caring about the work I do, of being on this newsletter list, of reading what I write and participating in workshops and other programs I offer, and of giving me the gift of service to you...
One of our LOVE SCHOOL students made a special request for our next LOVE SCHOOL class- how to cope with the holidays when someone you love fails to live up to your expectations. She wrote, “How do you befriend your sad, hopeless, lonely parts during the holidays...
There’s a saying in spiritual circles- “If you think you’re enlightened, go home.” No matter how great your childhood was, nothing brings up our core triggers and most regressed behaviors more than being around our family of origin. I remember helping my mother...
I had a very hard time learning to say no to my mother. She didn’t ask me how I wanted to live my life when I was growing up. She ordered me to do what she wanted, which usually was whatever she thought the church wanted. Having grown up in California during my...
I once had a (very brief) romance with a guy who I suspect is a sociopath. He suspects he’s a sociopath too, so it’s not just me. In a book he wrote, he even has a whole chapter about sociopaths and was very openly curious about whether he, too, was one of them....
My partner Jeff is facing a lot of big decisions right now. He has two very different job opportunities potentially pulling him into two vastly different lifestyles. He has to decide where he’s going to live once our short term Airbnb in Forestville, CA, which came...