My partner Jeff is facing a lot of big decisions right now. He has two very different job opportunities potentially pulling him into two vastly different lifestyles. He has to decide where he’s going to live once our short term Airbnb in Forestville, CA, which came...
I love one-on-one Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts work. I am forever indebted to my IFS therapist Nancy Morgan and to IFS founder Dick Schwartz, who I’ve been blessed to do some one-on-one work with from time to time. I highly recommend seeing an IFS therapist...
Pop psychology uses a lot of lingo to describe various imbalances in relationship: Overfunctioning/ Underfunctioning Narcissist/ Codependent Neurotypical/ Neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc) Caregiver/ Disabled care receiver Falsely empowered/ Disempowered One up/...
Everyone deserves to be loved, especially the people who didn’t get love growing up. We all deserve companionship, affection, attention, appreciation, nurturing care, safe touch, comfort, and someone to have fun with. All human beings deserve to feel special,...
In 2019 at the IFS conference in Denver where I taught a workshop with Dick Schwartz about using IFS for treatment of medical conditions, I saw a keynote presentation by Hailan Guo, MD, PhD, who was described to me as “The Oprah of China.” She’s a medical doctor...
You know the drill. You go to the person who hurt you. You say “When you did x, y, and z, I felt hurt, abandoned, neglected, tortured, betrayed, enraged, devastated, disappointed, misunderstood, invisible, [fill in your emotion.]” The other person either cuts you...
On Monday, August 11, we’ll be teaching our LOVE SCHOOL participants how to do peer to peer parts processing with Internal Family Systems, as a way to deepen your personal self-help practice of IFS, either on your own, with peer support, or between IFS therapy...
In intimate relationships, agreements are sacred. They are not just logistical understandings; they are expressions of mutual respect, shared values, and equal power. When two people come to an agreement, especially about something emotionally charged or...