Why Being Good At Relationships Is Like Tennis (& Why There’s No Shame At Being Unskilled In Relationships)

Why Being Good At Relationships Is Like Tennis (& Why There’s No Shame At Being Unskilled In Relationships)

It’s not your fault if nobody ever taught you how to be in a healthy relationship. If you grew up in a house with at least one selfabsorbed narcissistic parent who didn’t model a healthy, balanced relationship for you. Or even worse, if one of your caregivers was a...

Dating The Day Democracy Almost Died

Dating The Day Democracy Almost Died

When I embarked upon my online dating experiment in January 2021 and went on about thirty first dates, I took advantage of the opportunity to write about all my dates and notice which parts of me showed up on each date. I thought I had a pretty stable sense of self...

Is It Compassion Or Is It Enabling?

Is It Compassion Or Is It Enabling?

As my partner Jeff Rediger and I just finished writing about in our book Relationsick, compassion might not seem like a health issue, but it’s intimately tied to the health of the body. It turns out that when our bodies act up, the body is a trailhead we are...