This morning, I had a small conflict with a friend, who I’ll call Piper. Although I’m on a tight book deadline for a book that’s due February 1, she’s also on a tight deadline to write her essays for her grad school application, and she’d offered to pay me $200 to...
My partner Jeffrey Rediger and I are almost done with the manuscript for our first book together about the health implications of unbalanced relationships, which is due February 1 and will come out Spring 2026. Through the process of trying to get the language...
In Part 1 of this series about how to navigate unbalanced relationships when one of you is autistic or has adult ADHD, I told Tara and Bryce’s story and published my letter to Tara. You can read their story and my response to Tara here. After reading my response to...
In LOVE SCHOOL, our IFS community of practice for healing relational trauma, improving relationships, and getting to know how your own parts engage relationally, one of the LOVE SCHOOL, who identifies with being in an unbalanced relationship, sent me a private...
Unlike many of my trauma survivor clients, for whom holidays were often a nightmare, I am one of those people who grew up with a family who knew how to do wonderful holidays. At home in Winter Park, Florida, the holiday season was filled with advent calendars and...
After my divorce from the father of my now 18-year old daughter, I hoped to find a relationship with someone who was willing to go the distance with me. I’d met people who claimed to be up for personal or spiritual growth, but when the rubber met the road and we...
For those of you seeking to write a memoir or learn self-help tools to deepen your Internal Family Systems practice, either as an adjunct to your IFS practice or because you can’t afford or can’t find an IFS therapist, my health equity parts want to share some...
Because we’re writing a book together about the health impacts of unbalanced, non-reciprocal, and oppressive relationships, my partner Jeff Rediger and I have been previewing some of what we’re writing about in the book in our continuity program LOVE SCHOOL. We get...