I didn’t mean to fall in love again. I really didn’t. I had already given my heart to Muir Beach—the fog that tucked me in at night like a damp wool blanket, the way the ocean hurled itself at the rocks with such theatrical despair, the sense that the land itself...
Let me start with wishing you holiday blessings from the 1870s renovated barn that is Jeff, Mira and my new home near Bodega Bay, CA. Because we’ve been in the midst of a big move, we only just got around to decorating for the holidays. So let me show you where we...
One of our LOVE SCHOOL students made a special request for our next LOVE SCHOOL class- how to cope with the holidays when someone you love fails to live up to your expectations. She wrote, “How do you befriend your sad, hopeless, lonely parts during the holidays...
I had a very hard time learning to say no to my mother. She didn’t ask me how I wanted to live my life when I was growing up. She ordered me to do what she wanted, which usually was whatever she thought the church wanted. Having grown up in California during my...
I once had a (very brief) romance with a guy who I suspect is a sociopath. He suspects he’s a sociopath too, so it’s not just me. In a book he wrote, he even has a whole chapter about sociopaths and was very openly curious about whether he, too, was one of them....
My partner Jeff is facing a lot of big decisions right now. He has two very different job opportunities potentially pulling him into two vastly different lifestyles. He has to decide where he’s going to live once our short term Airbnb in Forestville, CA, which came...
I love one-on-one Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts work. I am forever indebted to my IFS therapist Nancy Morgan and to IFS founder Dick Schwartz, who I’ve been blessed to do some one-on-one work with from time to time. I highly recommend seeing an IFS therapist...
Pop psychology uses a lot of lingo to describe various imbalances in relationship: Overfunctioning/ Underfunctioning Narcissist/ Codependent Neurotypical/ Neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc) Caregiver/ Disabled care receiver Falsely empowered/ Disempowered One up/...