I’m new to Sonoma County and actively in pursuit of new friends, new community, and a new sense of belonging. After 17 years of feeling very embedded in my beloved Muir Beach, I feel oddly vulnerable in a town where I barely know anyone. With my new empty...
As I explained in my blog about IFS-informed Dating and Dating The Day Democracy Died, I learned a ton about myself and my own parts by going on about thirty first dates before I wound up with my current partner Jeffrey Rediger, who I met at a trauma conference we...
When my 59 year old physician father was given three months to live four months after he’d already been cured from an altogether different cancer, I asked myself “If I found out I had only three months to live, would I be living the life I’m living right now?” The...
I’ve spent most of my career exploring answers to the question “What really makes people sick and what really cures disease?” I thought I’d find those answers in medical school, only to discover that what I spent twelve years rigorously studying and eight years...
Ever since things started opening back up again after the pandemic, I'm very aware of how much change we're all facing. We are definitely in the "space between stories," when one story is definitely in its death throes, and the next story has not yet made itself...
“If you wish to upset the law that all crows are black, you mustn't seek to show that no crows are; it is enough if you prove one single crow to be white.” ―William James Many people walk through the world mired in the mud of material reality, unilluminated by the...
Growing up, Thanksgiving was always my favorite. Fall was my favorite season- the first cool chill of sweater weather and relief from the blazing heat of Florida, where I grew up. I adored the holiday art projects- the oranges, reds, and browns, the headdress...
After the UK Channel 4 Dispatches documentary and The Times long format article detailed the allegations of four women accusing Russell Brand of sexual assault broke the news, any other women who might also cry #MeToo were invited to come forward. In response to...