Events
I Won An Award For Telling My Story: Don’t Ever Let Them Break You
For many years, I've been reading and resonating with the physician literary magazine PULSE. (You can read it on their site here and subscribe to Pulse here.) Earlier this year, they had a writing contest with the prompt "On Being Different." I decided to enter the...
Thanksgiving, National Day of Mourning, Reckoning With American History, & A Lot of Mixed Feelings
Growing up, Thanksgiving was always my favorite. Fall was my favorite season- the first cool chill of sweater weather and relief from the blazing heat of Florida, where I grew up. I adored the holiday art projects- the oranges, reds, and browns, the headdress feathers...
11 Things I’ve Learned From All The Cult Documentaries & Podcasts
Because two people in my inner circle are in recovery from controlling relationships and cultic abuse, I've been educating myself by watching all the cult documentaries, reading books about cult recovery, and listening to all the podcasts, like my favorite, Rachel...
Contempt, Blanket Training, And Complex-PTSD, Oh My
In couple’s therapists John and Julie Gottman’s work on the “Four Horsemen Of The Apocalpyse,” they name the four behaviors that kill marriages, namely criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Contempt, they say, is the single most dangerous behavior, and...
We Hurt Each Other When We Don’t Understand How Trauma Works
Gordon’s girlfriend Steph has to leave home for stretches of time for her work. They live together, and when they’re together, their relationship seems great. He’s happy to see her after work every day, he thinks fondly about her when he’s at work, he’s grateful for...
Israel, Gaza, Sociopathy & Why My Spiritual Beliefs Don’t Comfort Me Like They Used To
I was in Cape Cod on Saturday teaching an online class about spontaneous healing when I heard the news about the massacre in Israel. My partner Jeff and I were right across the water from my co-teacher of Memoir As Medicine and friend Nancy Aronie and her husband...