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Am I The Only One Feeling Helpless To Stop The Wreckage Of My Country?
I haven’t written about politics for a while, not because people send me hate mail and unsubscribe from my newsletter list every time I do, not because I lose money in my business from losing those customers and readers, but because I, one of the most verbose writers...
The Antidote To “Spiritual Bypassing”
When I first learned about the idea of “spiritual bypassing,” it was shattering to my parts. I felt busted, lost, ashamed, scared, embarrassed, and deflated. Here I thought I was an advanced spiritual being, capable of loving even the most intolerable asshats on the...
Don’t Be Tricked By What You Think Is Intuition, Part 2
In Part 1 of this series, we explored how, to use IFS language, our “parts” can trick us into thinking we’re being guided by intuition or spirit, when really, our parts have an agenda they’re trying to disguise. I promised to offer some guidance on discerning the...
Don’t Be Tricked By What You Think Is Intuition, Part 1
I was talking to a friend who gave me permission to share her story in my upcoming book Relationsick about how over-giving, fawning, and people pleasing to an extreme degree led to depletion, burnout, and cancer. I had shared a book with her about how to discover...
You Can Heal Your “Parts” & Be The Good Enough Primary Attachment Figure You Never Had
I’m new in town, so I’m trying to make new friends and I met someone today who had never heard of IFS. She was a longtime seeker with a tough past who had worked on herself for decades. She’d been in therapy here and there but she hadn’t tried any of the cutting edge...
How To Heal When Your Perpetrator Expects A Hall Pass: A Step By Step Process
You know the drill. You go to the person who hurt you. You say “When you did x, y, and z, I felt hurt, abandoned, neglected, tortured, betrayed, enraged, devastated, disappointed, misunderstood, invisible, [fill in your emotion.]” The other person either cuts you off...