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People Who Provide The Spark Don’t Often Get To Sit By The Fire, But Let’s At Least Try To Make A Freakin’ Bonfire Together
When we look back at history, we see that the greatest catalysts for change, especially in social justice realms, rarely get to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Usually, as with Martin Luther King, Jr and his "I have a dream" vision, it's quite the opposite. Spark...
10 Ways To Oppress People With Spirituality (& Get Away With It)
Just as a point of inquiry, let's take a moment to explore the relationship between common religious and spiritual teachings and how they might be linked to oppression. I don't believe there's some Evil Cabal out to control the world, but let's consider the actual...
8 Things To Consider About “Bad Friends” (& Why We Must Hold Our Intimate Friends Close)
After making a very painful decision to let a long-term friendship expire after repetitive boundary violating and abusive behavior caused me to hit my limit, I just read an article about "bad friends" that I found very helpful. This friendship has been problematic for...
As Religion & New Age Spirituality Topple, What DO I Believe In?
Some of you have been asking me privately whether I've become an atheist, a skeptic, or some sort of non-believer, so I thought I'd take a minute to just share with you some of my personal beliefs, which are admittedly always fluid as I learn and grow. In short, no. I...
What Actually Heals Trauma: The Key Components Of Effective Treatment
“Sometimes I wake up & have to remind myself: ‘There is nothing wrong with me. I have patterns to unlearn, new behaviors to embody and wounds to heal. But there is nothing wrong with the core of me and who I am. I am unlearning generations of harm and remembering...
Extend Compassion To Both Victims & Perpetrators; But Not At The Expense Of Reparations For Victims & Accountability For Perpetrators
A few days ago, I posted 23 Ways To Spot Cultic Leaders, and it’s obvious from the almost 400 comments that a lot of people have been hurt by people who abused their power in ways that cause irreparable kinds of harm. I want to start by saying to the victims of cultic...