A friend and fellow Hay House author Christina Rasmussen reached out to me this weekend because her book Second Firsts: Live, Laugh & Love Again about finding joy after loss launches today. Christina was about to hop on a plane to travel to New York for her book launch when she reached out and asked me if I had any advice for her, and here’s what I wrote.

Good luck dear! Here’s my advice. Please hear me on this.
You have already arrived.
You have nothing to prove.
You are already enough.
Your inherent value has nothing to do with the success of this book.
If the book is destined to succeed, it will, in spite of you. If not, it won’t, and it won’t be your fault. Turn it all over to Divine Order and just trust the journey.
You are already “there” because there is no “there” there. There is only here.

Christina wrote back, “I am crying my eyes out reading this. You just gave me the best gift anyone could give me. I am going to give it over to the Divine right now. I am here and there and everywhere I could be. THANK YOU LISSA. You just freed me.”

You’ve Already Arrived

I was just paying it forward. The night before Mind Over Medicine  launched, my friend Kris Carr, who has written two New York Times bestselling books and who wrote the foreword to Mind Over Medicine, called me to say, “Darling, I’m calling to tell you you’ve already arrived.” I too burst into tears.

It’s remarkable how much pressure we burden ourselves with. When What’s Up Down There launched in 2010, I was a nervous wreck. I barely slept the week before my book launch, and I lost about ten pounds that month because I was too nauseous to eat. I felt so much pressure to achieve some poorly defined measure of success that I pushed too hard and had to learn the lesson my mentor Dr. Christiane Northrup taught me about being less sperm, more egg. I wound up several months later with what I described as PPD (Post Publishing Depression, the rare malady nobody warns authors about.)

There’s No “There” There

What I came to realize is that it’s all a vicious ego trap, and that if we’re always striving to get “there” (wherever the hell “there” is,) we’re never actually being HERE.

This realization was a game-changer for me. I decided to voluntarily get off the treadmill, because I finally realized that it’s a vicious game with no winners. Even some of the most wildly successful people I knew weren’t happy because they were still pushing to arrive at some yet-undetermined level of success that would allow them to finally savor the accolades. Yet, the things they were grasping for are forever out of reach.  The grasping never ends as long as you’re trying to fill the hungry ghost of worthiness inside of you with external food that doesn’t nourish you.

Savor Where You Are

On New Years Eve, as 2013 dawned, I declared myself “here.” I declared not to keep striving to get “there.” I’ve been a million times happier ever since.

So I ask you this. What goals have you set for yourself? What do you still hope to achieve? What creative risks are you taking? How much are you letting those goals define your sense of worth?

Do you realize that you are valuable not because of some bestselling book or some six-figure job or some hot soulmate or a desk full of trophies, but because you have within you a little spark of divinity, and this makes you inherently worthy?

Do you appreciate that you can only truly enjoy your life when you’re RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW, appreciating what you’ve already achieved and savoring, with loads of gratitude, the beautiful being you are in this second, before any of those other things are achieved?

Do you know, in your heart, that you are a worthy, beautiful, valuable, lovable, talented child of God and you have nothing left to prove?

I hope so. Because it’s true, my dear. Feel it in your bones. Know it in your heart. Gobble it up like ice cream, because that’s the only nourishment that will ever feed your soul.

With love and conviction that you really are all that,

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  1. Maggie MacDonald

    right back atcha Lissa, thank you for your dedication to yourself, without which we could not benefit from your light and dedication to all of us out here listening to your voice! peace, joy, hugs. Maggie

  2. Sherry

    Thank you for sharing this Lissa…I too am in tears!

  3. Cat

    I LOVE this post! One of my yoga teachers used to say “You’re never gonna get there, because there is no ‘there’ to get!”

    • classyoga

      So, how did your “yoga teacher” get there? Just another thoughtless new-agey cliché.

  4. Jenni Hulburt

    thank you for this Dr. Lissa. I just launched my own project, the Inspire Workouts, and when I started the journey to create them I said a prayer much like the one you shared in this post. I am enough with or without them, but since I was given a mission I would create it and see it through. But letting go of the outcome and realizing I’ve arrived is such a blessing and reminder. thank you.

  5. classyoga

    Like so many, unfortunately, Lissa is shamelessly (unless totally ignorant) stealing from the Hindu religion. She/You mention Aum, Mantra and Yoga and fail to disclose that these are all integral parts of the Hindu religion. Like Chopra and others, you take from Hinduism to sell your products. Sadly, most people are so misinformed they do not see the connection. Just think if you advocated saying Cross, chanting Ave Marie and genuflecting. The Aum is the sacred word and symbol of Hinduism. A Mantra is a Hindu chant. Yoga are the many teachings and practices of Hinduism. To make oneself less stressful by causing stress to others is shameful and (as Hindus say) bad Karma.
    Swami Param
    Classical Yoga Hindu Academy

  6. Kim

    Lissa, I am working my way through some of your blog posts as I’ve become familiar with your work through the Medicine for The Soul Class (and am loving your soulful approach to life and healing). The following saying was on the card my parents gave me at my college graduation…I’ve shared it with many over the years (posted it on the Medicine for the Soul Class blog). It’s posted in my home. It has been read at funerals, including my father’s, who died 59. I share it here b/c it seems appropriate given the topic.My favorite line has always been success…”to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived”…I now think of this even more deeply upon having a son who is just shy of 4. I know my dad was a “generous listener” as you and Rachel have talked about…and I was thinking no matter what our profession or accolades…isn’t being truly present to others through generous listening…one of the most lasting marks of a life well lived and full of success. And if we can do this for our inner circle — close friends, family, especially our spouse and children…isn’t this the best we can do…isn’t this the icing of success…

    Success (often attributed to Emerson, but actually adapted from a piece written by Bessie Stanley in 1905)

    To laugh often and much: To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded.


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